Small Talk

I always struggle with the small talk stage of dating (and every stage lol, keeping it real). But somehow my life sounds dull as dirt to my ears as soon as I start talking about it, and I also shy away from asking direct questions because I don’t want to be too interrogative…any tips, pretty please? Do you feel this?

Seasons

Recently I said to my therapist, “I don’t know if I should worry, but I feel like I’m in my post-shidduchim era. I haven’t done hishtadlus in the longest time and I just feel distant from the whole thing. Like I’m not being busy with it anymore.” It’s true, I can’t remember the last time I did anything proactive for …

Word Choice

The language of shidduchim could be a dissertation in itself. Of course we have the “girls and boys,” and the never not remembering that we’re experiencing a “crisis.” Recently I cracked up at seeing 23-year-old women referred to as “mature singles” (I’m laughing again typing this)

Fish In the Sea

Years ago, someone told me to remember that “there are always fewer fish in the sea.” This well-meant(?) warning succeeded in ingraining a scarcity mindset in me while not actually helping me connect any more easily with anyone I dated. I recently talked this out with my mentor M’nucha Bialik and she had the greatest reframe:

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