How To Support a Friend Who Is Freezing Her Eggs
If you are looking for ways to support a friend who is going through an egg freezing cycle, here are some ideas (for an overview of the process, see here):
Category: Relationships
My Queen
My grandmother passed away this week. I’m so grateful I got to visit her this winter. Her health declined after my grandfather passed away – they were one unit after so many years of marriage – we saw this unfolding. I wish I could have spent more time with her in the last few years but COVID got in the …
Stuff To Remember About Relationships
Below is a non-authoritative, non-comprehensive brain dump that I did in my journal in response to a prompt. What would you add?
Who Makes Shidduchim?
I started listening recently to Daily Bitachon with Michael Safdie, a businessman who learns and teaches a short lesson a day on bitachon. My aunt turned me on to it, and though I hadn’t felt pulled specifically to learn this topic, I’m finding that it is giving me oxygen.
Acceptance
The word “acceptance” can feel like sneaky code for resignation or defeat. What does it truly mean to accept your situation as it is? To me, it means moving forward with wishes and plans in a manner that acknowledges and integrates reality as it is now, without fighting it.
Nothing
Many of us have a “frequent flyer” shidduch suggestion that keeps coming up, and in my case, the answer is “Yes, we know about each other, he isn’t interested…” For context, he lives near me, he went out with my cousin,
Awake On a Long Flight To Somewhere
My friend used this analogy to describe what it feels like to be in a difficult situation unfolding on its own timeline. There’s not much you can do (i.e. nothing) to shorten the timeframe; what you can do is find ways to make the process more tolerable.
Alphapoem (And A Poem on Prayer)
I recently wrote an alphapoem for my current writing course and want to share the process with you. An alphapoem is similar to an acrostic in that you write a word or phrase vertically down the left side of your page and use it to write your poem. However, whereas an acrostic purposely begins each line with the next letter …
Doors
I’m rereading a book I posted about years ago, Love Will Find You by Kathryn Alice. (I must dig up my Soulmate Journal and do the exercises again). I was struck by this sentiment:
How Much of You Is In Shidduchim?
My married cousin asked me this question last Motzoei Shabbos after we spent a large part of Shabbos afternoon talking about what I am looking for, my dating experiences, etc. I thought it was a clever question, and I am still thinking about it. How much of me identifies as someone in shidduchim as opposed to all the other things …