Category: Relationships

Hi, _____ [your first name]? This is your shadchan, Mrs. Triggerfloffer. I wanted to talk to you before your date tonight.

I recently read an excellent book called What’s Your Grief? by Eleanor Haley and Litsa Williams, exploring the many facets of navigating and coping with a loss of any kind. I like the bullet point format, which makes the book easy to read and digest.   One of the topics addressed is regret. Our brains often tell us that something …

In my writing course a few weeks ago, we had to write about three memories related to three qualities or values that contribute to our wellbeing. I always have a hard time choosing the top few of anything because it feels too decisive (am I allowed to change my mind?), so I told myself that I could write about three that …

One of my favorite scenes in A Wrinkle in Time by Madeleine L’Engle is at the end when (spoiler)

I think about my kids all the time — my roommates know that I like to say that my family already exists in another dimension. I like to read parenting books from time to time (I’m in middle of Good Inside, by Dr. Becky Kennedy, right now). Some things I want to do with my kids once we are in …

My grandmother passed away this week. I’m so grateful I got to visit her this winter. Her health declined after my grandfather passed away – they were one unit after so many years of marriage – we saw this unfolding. I wish I could have spent more time with her in the last few years but COVID got in the …

Below is a non-authoritative, non-comprehensive brain dump that I did in my journal in response to a prompt. What would you add?  

I started listening recently to Daily Bitachon with Michael Safdie, a businessman who learns and teaches a short lesson a day on bitachon. My aunt turned me on to it, and though I hadn’t felt pulled specifically to learn this topic, I’m finding that it is giving me oxygen.

The word “acceptance” can feel like sneaky code for resignation or defeat. What does it truly mean to accept your situation as it is? To me, it means moving forward with wishes and plans in a manner that acknowledges and integrates reality as it is now, without fighting it.