Liminal space is a term to describe the place we occupy during a transition, between one place and another. I think of this term often when I think about dating, especially in our system where life can take on a frozen, suspended feeling when you begin dating someone. You’re not available, you’re not committed, you’re just…in between somewhere. And being …
Because we know that “Can you send me your resume?” only sounds like an innocent question…
A few months ago I read Together: The Healing Power of Human Connection in a Sometimes Lonely World, by Vitek Murthy, and I’m still thinking about it. Highly recommend! The book describes the damaging effects of loneliness and the importance of social connection. Every day at work I speak with people who are isolated from social supports and let …
How do you feel about asking people for help? Last year before my thirtieth birthday, I decided to organize a group of women to do hafrashas challah as a zechus for me. I had read in Rising: The Book of Challah, by Rochie Pinson, of a segulah to have 43 women do hafrashas challah as a zechus for a …
In the early days of shidduchim, when friends and classmates got married, it felt awkward and made me feel insecure to see where they were at. The chasm between single me and married them seemed ridiculously vast, and only widened further with the arrival of their first baby or two, often in short order. I felt anxious to catch up …
Hi, _____ [your first name]? This is your shadchan, Mrs. Triggerfloffer. I wanted to talk to you before your date tonight.
I recently read an excellent book called What’s Your Grief? by Eleanor Haley and Litsa Williams, exploring the many facets of navigating and coping with a loss of any kind. I like the bullet point format, which makes the book easy to read and digest. One of the topics addressed is regret. Our brains often tell us that something …
In my writing course a few weeks ago, we had to write about three memories related to three qualities or values that contribute to our wellbeing. I always have a hard time choosing the top few of anything because it feels too decisive (am I allowed to change my mind?), so I told myself that I could write about three that …
One of my favorite scenes in A Wrinkle in Time by Madeleine L’Engle is at the end when (spoiler)
I think about my kids all the time — my roommates know that I like to say that my family already exists in another dimension. I like to read parenting books from time to time (I’m in middle of Good Inside, by Dr. Becky Kennedy, right now). Some things I want to do with my kids once we are in …
