Category: Relationships

This article from Ingrid Fetell Lee was right up my alley (she also wrote this one). In it, she writes about the three things that helped her when she was single (before marrying in her 30’s):

Over the years, I’ve taken a fair number of courses and workshops and listened to speeches and read books about shidduchim. And of course gotten lots and lots of advice (mostly unsolicited). I’ve heard my share of “What do you have to do to be married in six months?” and “You just have to decide that you’re going to give …

I’m struggling with tefillah, both the formal davening-from-a-siddur kind, and the emotional asking-Hashem-for-my-deepest-needs kind. The only kind of tefillah that feels doable and available to me is the informal talking-to-Hashem-briefly-throughout-the-day-mostly-to-say-thank-You kind. My friend says this is very natural as this is what happens after years of davening for something and hearing no. It gets discouraging. It gets frustrating. It burns …

If anyone had told me ten years ago what the next ten years would look like, I would have never, ever believed that I could make it through them. I guess it’s good that we don’t get told these things!

Last week I had a conversation with a friend that I’ve had many times before, about my existential crisis: “I feel unsatisfied and that I need to be doing more…What is my purpose?” She pointed out that we’ve had this conversation on a recurrent basis every few months for about ten years and the solutions I turn to (more work, …

A friend and I were joking about reassigning “do-gooders” to other projects so they don’t keep trying to help us. (You know, the ones who tell you, unsolicited, to take a better picture or add references to your resume). Aren’t there so many worthy projects for them to choose from? Like…

I always struggle with the small talk stage of dating (and every stage lol, keeping it real). But somehow my life sounds so…uninteresting to my ears as soon as I start talking about it, and I also shy away from asking direct questions because I don’t want to be too interrogative…any tips, pretty please? Do you feel this?

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The actress Emma Watson got some flak for calling herself “self-partnered” as opposed to, you know, “single.” I’ll admit that’s a bit of an eyeroll, but recently in my apartment,

Recently I said to my therapist, “I don’t know if I should worry, but I feel like I’m in my post-shidduchim era. I haven’t done hishtadlus in the longest time and I just feel distant from the whole thing. Like I’m not being busy with it anymore.” It’s true, I can’t remember the last time I did anything proactive for …