One of the most fervent hopes and prayers of many people in shidduchim is to have clarity. I often daven for clarity and have been wished clarity and have been told that the most important thing to have is clarity 😉 . Lately I’ve been considering what clarity could mean, aside from what I think is the most basic …
Hey, all. I thought it would be interesting to talk about who “takes charge” of your shidduchim. Do shadchanim contact you directly? Do you reach out to shadchanim on your own or does someone do it on your behalf? Who does shidduch research? How have things changed over the years? And are you happy with your current setup or are …
Initially, I was going to write this up like a Top 5 but…I will leave that to the pros. Up there with answering “what are you looking for?” is the subtle aggravation of trying to extract shidduch information from a hopeful suggester. (Disclaimer: THANK YOU to everyone who tries to make shidduchim, especially mine 😉 . You are appreciated.) …
How I dread that question. It’s not like I haven’t had to answer it a million times already, but I still cringe and stumble when I have to produce an answer. Anyone out there have a really good elevator pitch that’s specific and true-to-you and easy to give over with minimal room for misinterpretation? No? (Sometimes I feel like saying, …
One of my married friends/moral supporters recently shared something she learned from Dina Friedman, the popular teacher. People say that shidduchim is about compromise. While every shidduch entails acceptance of the full package, which will always include at least some “imperfection,” Dina Friedman teaches a method for feeling that you are not compromising at all. Basically, for every imperfection …
Things are slowly getting back to normal where I live. Retail is starting to open, outdoor minyanim are fully operational, families are hosting their relatives for Shabbos. Social distancing and lockdowns are reversing themselves, and it looks like Zoom dating may no longer be entirely necessary in the near future. This would seem to be good news. I am …
Recently a friend asked if I knew what a mutual acquaintance is looking for in a shidduch, as she had a guy in mind. I answered that I didn’t know but that it was nice of her to try and work on an idea. She shared that she didn’t want to ask the girl herself so that she wouldn’t “get …
Hey, all. I was going to post something before Shavuos but I didn’t get to it and now…what a year this week has been (not my own line). I haven’t ever posted about politics and won’t start now but I will acknowledge current events because how can I not? Just want to say that I think murdering and also …
This week Mishpacha printed a LifeLines story and aaargh I read it and ask myself why? Probably should have quit while I was ahead but I didn’t so here’s a new post. In all fairness, every person is fully entitled to share their story, and the story itself is fairly innocuous. It’s basically one young man’s account of his …
I recently read a comment on an article on a frum website to the effect of “women in abusive relationships should work on themselves because often, abuse is a response to the wife’s behavior.” Oh my goodness. No, no, and no. What on earth? Abuse is never the victim’s fault. Never. Abuse is the abuser’s problem. It is a …
