My Response to “The Exit Interview”

Ok, I’m very late to the party here but we have to talk about the greatest piece of writing ever published in Calligraphy. (To be honest, I’m not usually a magazine reader so I’m wholly unqualified to make that statement…but anyway.)   On Erev Pesach, my friend texted me that if I had the Mishpacha I had to read Rikki …

Stand and See

I’m struggling to find the sweet spot between too much hishtadlus and too little. Or really, between too much and just right. Can anyone relate?   It’s that feeling of…maybe I should text this shadchan again. And, like, maybe again soon. Or email this person my resume, again, as a friendly reminder. Or meet another shadchan who works with this …

No Shidduch Crisis

First of all, happy Tu B’Shvat!   Now, this topic. The elephant in the room. I’ve avoided it for almost an entire year, but if this blog is meant for people in the parsha, we were going to acknowledge this issue at some point, weren’t we? So, let’s get this over with as quickly as possible and hope no one …

Filling the Tank

A few months back, I had an interesting exchange with my friend’s mother. We talked about my upcoming summer vacation and I told her how excited I was to go to Europe, especially since my memories and pictures of a previous trip continue to make me so happy. She told me that her daughter, who is several years older than …

Thinking of Others

An area of personal growth that I find challenging is remembering to think about others more consistently — acknowledging what’s going on in their lives, touching base, doing little things that make them feel cared for. You may know this already. I am perpetually trying to make this a priority, so today I made a list of some ideas to …

Character Sketching

Recently I’ve been going through Journal to the Self, by Kathleen Adams, and learning about different journaling techniques. (This has been an ongoing fascination). I tried one of her ideas and it was so fun and helpful, I wanted to spread the word: character sketching.   A character sketch is a written description of someone, which helps you get to …

Vulnerability

I’m dashing off this post because I just read Sara Eisemann’s MatchQuest column in this week’s Family First, and the question and answer were so phenomenally on-target, I had to share. (The entire text is available through the above link.)   I know that most of what I talk about on this blog is not actual dating or the process …

How Many Left?

My sister’s classmate recently got engaged. When she shared the news with someone, that person immediately asked, “So, how many left in your class?”   The two of us instinctively looked at each other because that is a question neither of us appreciates. (And, might I add, I have a question in response: How is the answer going to help you?) …

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