Hello, everyone. I hope you had a wonderful Purim last week! I had an almost strangely calm one, and it was nice. Recently, I read The Wonderful Wizard of Oz by L. Frank Baum to my nephews. This is a great illustration of the hero’s journey. It was fun for me to revisit the book as an adult and read it …
Here’s another dating metaphor that’s been helping me recently. This is something that comes up a lot for people who have been dating for a few years or longer — the phenomenon 😉 of hearing only repeat suggestions for a while. It can get to a point where you really believe there is no one else out there. I know …
So recently I did this thing where I sent my updated resume to everyone and the mailman. The story is that I was reading some old blog posts on Sunday and I read the one on hishtadlus and was inspired to do some. So I did and it was really kind of fun. I reconnected with a lot of people …
A great strategy for mindful dating is to develop a self-care plan to implement after every date (not just the first but I’m inserting this mini-post here). To be most effective, this should be planned and ready to go in advance of the date so you have something cozy and supportive to look forward to no matter what happens. I …
Continuing on with my notes from Burnout, by Emily and Amelia Nagoski. This concept is so interesting and provides a whole new way of mentally working with expectations, struggle, and patience: Your brain has a system for monitoring the ratio of effort to success you’re experiencing as you work towards a goal. It then compares this ratio with what …
A reader pointed out to me that I often suggest getting a dating coach or mentor to talk to before and during a dating relationship but I haven’t provided much information about how to find one. I’ve been fortunate to have a lot of support with dating in recent years but I know it can be hard to find someone …
Hey, all, let’s continue talking about dating through the lens of mindfulness. Last time we looked at pre-first date anxiety and ways to help yourself through that. Now let’s look at the first date itself. First dates are really nerve-wracking. Second and third dates etc, also. But first dates are uniquely nerve-wracking because there’s that Big Reveal. The …
So far we looked at suggestion-dread and shidduch research. I wanted to talk a bit about anxiety before a first date because that used to knock me flat. It’s a lot easier for me now but still not always a picnic. When I use the term anxiety here, I don’t mean it lightly: dating really triggers situational anxiety in …
First of all, I want to let you know that I have every intention of continuing the series on mindful dating, I just haven’t gotten to it yet, but I will! I have to write a paper about grief (again!) and basically we need to design a program that meets a need that is not being addressed in the …
This week I went to a wedding for the first time in months and months. The chosson was my cousin who used to come to us for Shabbos meals almost every week when he was in beis medrash, and we were very close. This was one of those couples that were both marrying their first — both just back from …
