Last week we talked about the pain of rejection, which is so real and present for many of us. At the same time, there is the struggle of being the one to say no yourself, and for some women (wildly raises hand) this is very difficult to do. Like extremely, in some cases (keeps hand raised). Because many of us …
I listened to a really interesting podcast episode about the history of the laugh track. Did you know that hearing a laugh track actually makes jokes seem funnier? That’s because of emotional contagion, the phenomenon where one person’s emotions trigger the same emotions in someone else. That’s also why the headlines we read each day and the images we look …
One of my friends knows to expect a certain text from me every so often: What am I doing wrong? Nothing, you’re doing everything you can be doing. There must be something I’m forgetting. Something. No, you do hishtadlus, you go out, you work on yourself, you have people you talk to. There must be another …
I’ve been meaning to write about this not-so-cheery topic for awhile but I had to get into the right frame of mind. So, let’s talk about putting yourself out there, trying (to get an appointment with a shadchan, to get a date, to date well, to like someone), rejection, maybe repeated rejection, chronic rejection, and the impact on your self-worth. …
Hey, all, hope you’re well. I recently listened to a segment of this Headlines podcast episode, specifically the interview with Tova Weinstein at 1:13:46, and I was cheering every word! I am so grateful to Tova for publicly saying what I (and I’m sure many other women) have been feeling. The points she makes: No matter what assurances people …
Hi, everyone! After four years of blogging, I am finally interviewing my readers on who you are and what you like! Whether you just discovered my blog this week or you’ve been here since the beginning, I would love your feedback. Here is a survey that should take about five minutes to complete, if you’d be so kind. I am …
A reader asked for a post about married friends a few months ago, and I’m excited to finally dive into this topic which for some reason has never made it into a post in my four years of blogging! One of my first posts was about engaged friends (the story behind that is that my childhood BFF got engaged …
This past Shabbos I had a really fun time with a friend…playing Perfect Matches! Now, I’ve mentioned on this blog that I don’t enjoy question-answer dating games and in the past, I didn’t. But revisiting the game now, I see that I actually find it really fun to answer the questions! I think it’s because I’ve evolved and gotten to …
Hi, all, finally picking up the series again. When I left off, you were implementing your post-date self-care plan and getting ready to process your date. So, you came home from your date and to the best of your ability you were really on that date, just being present, so now you get to process. Here are some things that …
Hello, everyone. I hope you had a wonderful Purim last week! I had an almost strangely calm one, and it was nice. Recently, I read The Wonderful Wizard of Oz by L. Frank Baum to my nephews. This is a great illustration of the hero’s journey. It was fun for me to revisit the book as an adult and read it …
