A little resilience-boosting tip I wanted to share: When something happens that isn’t quite as you’d want it, add the word “experience” to the name of the event. For example, a Missed Train Experience. Or a Wrong-Shoes-For-The-Weather Experience.
This seems like an obvious solution to a long-standing problem but I hadn’t thought of it until today. Problem: Throughout the workday, I find myself with pockets of free time (ex. a client cancels) and I tend to fill the time by flitting from one half-activity to the next without actually getting anything I want to get done, done with …
I’m listening to Benny Friedman’s “A Yid” on repeat these days. It is giving me a lot of chizuk.
As I’m trying to prevent workaholism-creep and a repeat of last winter, I’ve been thinking about productivity culture and the pressure to be “busy.” I have to be honest. I feel a lot of internal pressure to do a lot, for multiple reasons: I’m afraid of missing out on opportunities, I have a really hard time saying no in general, …
This quote from The Creative Act by Rick Rubin, referencing creative inspiration, made me think:
This is a helpful graphic that visually depicts wellness across eight dimensions: physical, emotional, social, existential, intellectual, environmental, vocational, and financial. In a class I took recently, we wrote about the one or two wedges of the pie that we are neglecting most right now and what we can do to nurture ourselves in those dimensions. I think this could …
I took the Wholehearted Inventory on Brené Brown’s website in November 2020 and again recently. It was amazing to compare the results, which I was unexpectedly able to do, since I still had the previous results in my email. I’ve gotten a lot calmer in three years. Most of the other measures bumped up, too. Sharing if you’re curious about …
I started to see a therapist when I started dating. I went on a family member’s suggestion; they had found therapy helpful themselves. The truth is that I knew I wanted more support but didn’t really know why, just that I had a sense that I didn’t know what I didn’t know about relationships/dating/marriage.
I read Self-Compassion by Kristen Neff about four years ago and it remains one of the most life-changing books I have ever read. Self-compassion is a gentle, open way of viewing ourselves that allows us to be imperfect and be in process. It has three parts: self-kindness, mindfulness, and common humanity. When we treat ourselves with compassion, we talk to …
I got this idea from Gretchen Rubin, and a similar idea, position statements, from Mary Pipher. Then a friend mentioned something similar this week and I thought about how I might apply this concept to my own life. It’s a simple idea: establish a policy for how you typically deal with a given scenario, and outsource your future decisions to …
