Recently I’ve been realizing that what I really need — maybe what we all really need — is emotional support, validation, and nurturing, not more and more and more advice about how to get married. I’m realizing that no one knows the secret, even wonderful and wise people. I’m realizing that no one has discovered the formula, even people who …
Am I doing enough? I know I’m busy but am I doing enough-enough? Like maybe I should take to Instagram or Substack as a content creator or start a coaching business or give a course or self-publish a guided journal or — well, you know. We live in such a knowledge- and service-based economy, it’s hard to feel like you’re …
Thank you for everything. Thank you for checking in on me, listening to me, rooting for me, advocating for me, davening for me. Thank you for your support and encouragement and loyalty, for never believing what “everyone” says, for telling me I’m not crazy no matter how upside-down everything feels. You guys are the best. P.S. My single friends …
As you may have gathered from my post last week, I have been working through a lot of old stuff about what I am and am not “allowed” to want in a shidduch. I trace this stuff to a workshop I took years ago when I was a much younger dater and I wanted all the guidance I could get. …
My friend pointed out that the challenge of shidduchim is double because it’s painful and it’s public. Not only do you have to go through it, you have to explain to people why you’re doing what you’re doing. We’re used to this being the way it is, it’s the water around us, but it is seriously not normal to have …
Hello, all. A little post about something comforting. This Canadian cottage is so happy. It reminds me of summers past and it’s reminiscent of The Blue Castle by L. M. Montgomery. One of the items on my bucket list is to own a cottage by a lake one day. One day! “Moonlight and the murmur of pines blended together …
I’m having a moment here, and I’m reflecting… If I could do it over, I would erase every workshop I took on shidduchim. I would erase every speech I trustingly absorbed. I would erase every formula. Every manual. Every checklist I was given. I would wipe the slate clean and just be me, a bright-eyed romantic looking for a …
Hello, all. Recently I listened to a terrific interview about relationship red flags with Lisa Twerski. Even if you’ve learned about how to identify dating red flags, I think this episode is worth a listen. Another resource I enjoyed is this video where Rachel Tuchman and Elisheva Liss talk about The Surrendered Wife approach to relationships and healthier ways …
It’s hard for me to believe I’m voluntarily writing yet another midterm paper when I just finished school five minutes ago, but here we are. I can’t seem to stay away. Social work is a unique profession within the broader mental health field in that it primarily focuses on the person within their environment and on addressing broader social …
I’m back at work in person one day a week, and I’m fortunate enough to have an office on a really high floor in a building in Chelsea. I face my office window most of the day and watch helicopters circle above the Hudson River. I watch seagulls sail by and imagine what it would be like to fly over …
