I searched Modern Mrs. Darcy, a book review blog, for an old post and found this great one. I have not read the book referenced — 168 Hours: You Have More Time Than You Think, by Laura Vanderkam — but I am absolutely planning on doing the exercise mentioned of making a list of 100 dreams. Off the top of …
A while ago I wrote about how I am comfortable with my married friends because most of them got married after some time in shidduchim and we can still relate to each other. Recently, I ventured into new terrain — reconnecting with married classmates who I have not been in touch with for awhile and/or who got married a long …
I feel like I am Alice, fallen down the rabbit hole to Wonderland, where everyone has their own logic and nothing actually makes sense. I say one thing and the person I’m talking to hears another and I’m pretty sure I was clear but maybe I don’t speak the right language for this particular setting? Or I mosey along …
I recently listened to an Ohel webinar with Dr. Edith Eva Eger (author of the incredible memoir The Choice). One thought she shared in particular made me gasp, it was so powerful and exactly what I needed to hear. Dr. Eger shared that what got her through Auschwitz and the war was curiosity. She wanted, just enough, to see what …
There is a negative voice inside each of us — the yetzer hara. It’s a voice of doubt that says things like: Nothing ever works out. This isn’t worth it. It will never happen. It’s hopeless. That is the force of Amalek. We all have it inside us so that we have no choice but to strengthen ourselves …
A little while ago I did something that reminded me how great it is to be an adult. I had an appointment in Montclair, New Jersey and I took the opportunity to drive by 68 Eagle Rock Way, the address of the Gilbreth family in Cheaper by the Dozen. Now in the sequel, Belles on Their Toes, it does say …
I took it down! I wanted to freshen up my wall and the vision boards weren’t exciting me the same way anymore. Maybe I will make another vision wall or maybe not. My room looks bigger and smaller now. And also like a blank canvas. Have a great Shabbos, all!
A wonderful reader asked for a post on the topic of the fear of change, specifically as it crops up when dating someone. I think this is a great and relatable topic. These are my thoughts: Change brings up a lot of fear. It’s natural to want to stick with a known situation rather than step into the unknown. …
A friend shared a visual with me a few years ago that helped me see anger in a new and less stigmatizing way. Anger is like a suit of armor that shields you from experiencing softer and more painful emotions like sadness, grief, and disappointment. Anger is like the tip of an iceberg. When you look beneath the surface, you …
It’s hard for me to believe but today is the fifth anniversary of my very first post! What?? It feels like yesterday and also several lifetimes ago. Since I started blogging I have learned so much more about myself, about relationships, and about shidduchim. I have been through many new experiences, including a serious relationship, lots of non-relationships, therapy, a …
