A few nights ago I was thinking about the concept of bashert and of “missing your bashert.” I was left with more questions than answers. What does it mean to have a bashert or to miss your bashert? Does it mean you can turn down the one person you would have been happiest with? The person who would have …
When you move into an apartment, of course, the most important thing is who you are living with. What’s it like to live with roommates? Before you sign on with a roommate, you should exchange references and look into each other. Really! Awkward as that sounds, it’s important and you should both do it. Also, you aren’t obligated to …
I have been singing this old song on repeat recently. It’s called “Impossible” and it’s from the Rodgers and Hammerstein musical Cinderella. It is so optimistic!
Some of you asked for a post on this topic awhile ago, and now let’s talk about this a bit! Note: This is not advice, these are my thoughts and experiences. I am not a financial professional and you should not make financial decisions based on what I tell you. Thanks. Money is a verrry charged and intimidating …
A few weeks ago I downloaded this cute, free app, Soulmate Cards, and I’ve been reading at least one card a day 🙂 . It always lifts my spirits — I really enjoy it — so I wanted to share. (These cards are based on the book Love Will Find You which I mentioned in this post, and yes, it’s …
One of the first questions people ask me when I tell them I live with roommates is “What do you do about food?” It’s kind of a joke in my apartment because of how often we get asked this. The question is often followed up with the suggestion, “Why don’t you do a rotation?? Everyone cooks one night…” as if …
What’s it like being a single woman in an apartment over Shabbos or Yom Tov? Since I moved at the height of COVID, my roommates and I made many, many Shabbos meals together before we could start going out for meals. Some of us have also done a bit of Y”T in the apartment. Here are some things I learned. …
We keep our apartment clean by cleaning communal spaces once a week and cleaning up after ourselves as we go. We do not have a cleaning lady on a regular basis, but we did have one a handful of times and it was nice 😉 . My roommates and I have divided up the main jobs that need to be …
I am including both the large and small items on this list. This is fairly thorough, although everyone has and needs different things. Some items I received from my parents, some I bought new, some were from my stash, and several were gifts from other people. You do not need every single item the first week you move! In the …
I was fortunate to move in with experienced people who had signed apartment leases before. They had also learned a lot over the years about navigating financial agreements and such between roommates. The most important thing is to put everything in writing, even if you love and trust each other. You want it all written down as a reference for …
