I recently read a comment on an article on a frum website to the effect of “women in abusive relationships should work on themselves because often, abuse is a response to the wife’s behavior.” Oh my goodness. No, no, and no. What on earth? Abuse is never the victim’s fault. Never. Abuse is the abuser’s problem. It is a …
A few weeks ago, a line jumped out at me in an article I was reading in one of the frum women’s magazines. It went something like, “It feels like yesterday that I was a teen but at 30, I’m practically a mother of teens myself.” Say what? I once wrote a post about throwing away the timelines, …
Just a friendly reminder that you never need to apologize for:
Since my Partner in Torah and I are now learning about the manna, I dusted off a paper I wrote in seminary (many moons ago) to refresh my memory of different lessons we can learn from this topic. (By the way, I couldn’t figure out whether to write it like mohn or manna. I was more inclined to the first but it evokes …
A long while back, a reader and I exchanged emails about a few topics that hadn’t been covered here. She requested a post on this topic and now…here it is, y’all. (Better late than never?) Basically, the question is: How do I keep dating from taking over my life? I find that when I’m in the midst of a …
I didn’t do too much reading over the past month. I was “going to” get into e-books since the library is closed but that didn’t happen. I’m just going to have to wait until things get back to normal to dive into my reading list in a real way. I read Forge, by Laurie Halse Anderson, the sequel to …
It’s really easy to look back at a past dating experience and tell yourself that you could have, should have made it work. That you over-analyzed. That you should have gotten over the way you felt. That if he had X, Y and Z going for him, you should have been okay with the limitations your relationship would’ve had. Because …
This new online life might be far from ideal but I’m kind of leaning into the craziness and allowing myself to not be so productive. One of the side effects of spending half the day (okay, exaggeration, but only slightly) on Zoom is that you end up opening all these tabs and going down rabbit holes and clicking on links …
At the end of February, right before everything shut down, a friend was working on an international shidduch for me and I was all, “I think I should fly to meet him, it’s ridiculous to meet someone over Zoom.” Hahahaha. Apparently it’s not so ridiculous, after all. This new frontier in shidduch dating definitely deserves a real discussion. …
Hi, all. The following is a conversation that never took place (but probably should have, and still might). I suspect this will resonate with you. “Mrs. Cohen” is a composite figure and the social worker is yours truly. Enjoy. Hi, Mrs. Cohen, do you have a few minutes to talk? I’m calling with a suggestion for you. Oh! …
