Last year I wrote about how I plan to celebrate Tu B’Av once I’m married. Well, this year I decided to celebrate it single! As mentioned last year, Tu B’Av is mesugal for connection. If Tisha B’Av is a day we can mourn the ambiguous loss of singlehood, why can’t Tu B’Av be a day we celebrate the hope and …
Boundaries are a perpetually hot topic. In this post, I’d love to share what I’ve learned about the topic over the past few years, if I may. A boundary is a flexible, invisible line around you that marks off what you are responsible for (that’s inside your boundary) and what you are not responsible for (that’s outside your boundary). …
Hello, everyone. I hope you’re all doing well and drinking lots of water, especially before the fast. Last week I wrote about boundaries and people-pleasing, and I plan to post some more expanding on that topic later this week or next. So check back for that. This week I wrote a paper for one of my classes and …
Public service announcement: Your “yes” only means something if you have the choice to say “no.” I read an article a few weeks ago in which the author seemed to misunderstand the term “people-pleasing.” She gave the impression that a people-pleaser is someone who is unusually kind and selfless. Now, they may be that, too. But actually, a people-pleaser …
In February I read a fun and different book, Love Will Find You, by Kathryn Alice. The book went through a number of steps and exercises for helping you surmount old obstacles and negativity about dating, become open to accepting love, and attract the right person into your life. I don’t need to tell you that I see this kind of …
Ever since I read the Rebbetzin Machlis book, I wanted to get more involved in making Shabbos. It was more of a wish/dream instead of an actual goal because I kept running into this resistance in my head that told me that making Shabbos before I was married would just be “pretend.” One of the positive developments for me …
Some of the most basic yet most helpful advice I got in shidduchim was to not count dates. I was in middle of a parsha and pressuring myself to come to a decision. A friend came over on Shabbos and told me to tell myself I had until Succos to make a decision (this was in June). At the time I …
In the interests of maintaining consistency, I’d like to report on what I read (or didn’t) in May and June. Remember January? Anyway, I had wanted to read 50 books this year but then COVID-19 hit and I kind of relaxed my extracurricular goals. One of the things that gave me an inkling that things would not be the …
I got the term “the America feeling” from Gretchen Rubin. It perfectly captures the patriotism + transcendence I feel when I have certain experiences. Like visiting Washington, D.C., which I’ve done many times, especially walking around the congressional office buildings. (How cool is it to stroll past office suites marked “North Dakota,” “Louisiana,” and “Texas” and watch mysterious and official-looking …
One of the most fervent hopes and prayers of many people in shidduchim is to have clarity. I often daven for clarity and have been wished clarity and have been told that the most important thing to have is clarity 😉 . Lately I’ve been considering what clarity could mean, aside from what I think is the most basic …
