My sister pointed out that timing can mean the difference between success or failure. If you want to buy a house, but you can’t afford it, then even if you find a great house in a great neighborhood at an objectively good price, it’s not good for you. It will be a headache and a strain and you will risk …
Something I’m thinking about: we can have a meaningful impact on other people’s children, just by being healthy, safe adults who take an interest in them. That is significant — children thrive when adults provide love, safety, consistency, positive role modeling, and positive regard. To me this is mothering before becoming a mother, to be this motherly force on the …
I have had so many theories over the years about who my husband is and why I haven’t met him yet (unless I have met him)? Do you ever think like this? He must be… Older (than I’ve ever dated). Younger (than I’ve ever dated). Married. Becoming frum. From a totally different background or community and we have …
It made me sad to read that Queen Elizabeth II passed away on Thursday. I thought the new King’s statement was so moving, as was Prince William’s. The Queen was only about a year and a half older than my grandfather, and he spent his formative years in England and maintained certain British sensibilities his whole life, so in some …
Recently I asked a friend to contact someone we both know and find out if he’d go out with me. It was a reach, and he said no. I was definitely very disappointed. But instead of being hard on myself for putting myself out there, I remembered the famous Wayne Gretzky line: “You miss one hundred percent of the shots …
Hello, all. Please fill out my 60-second questionnaire! Thanks! Everything about shidduchim takes SO LONG. Phone tag, waiting to hear back from people, should-I-shouldn’t-I-follow-up… “He’s busy, he has to get back to me, call me next week, text me a reminder, I’m going out of town, I’m making a wedding, they’re making a wedding, I didn’t hear from …
Hello, all. Last week I went away for a few days to my sister in Toms River. The idea was that I would use her pool every day but of course I didn’t use it once (lol). I went to my sister for vacation because I didn’t really know what to do with myself this summer but I knew …
The last time I was in E”Y was before COVID, in August 2019 (and what a wonderful week it was). I wanted to go this summer but it didn’t work out. Maybe later this year… My cousin was just there and her WhatsApp status made me homesick. I miss E”Y — when I’m there I remember who I am. …
A friend sent me a link to this study she found, on the struggles of Orthodox Jewish daters. This is the kind of research that makes my heart sing — a large qualitative study of an under-studied issue that matters so much to me. I had to share the link! P.S. Now that I’ve had a bit of a …
What does community mean to you? I’ve thought a lot about it off and on since moving into my apartment about two years ago. My roommates and I became part of the neighborhood, and that was important, I found, in helping me feel more like an adult. Going places for Shabbos meals and reaching out to reconnect with people also …
