It’s really easy to look back at a past dating experience and tell yourself that you could have, should have made it work. That you over-analyzed. That you should have gotten over the way you felt. That if he had X, Y and Z going for him, you should have been okay with the limitations your relationship would’ve had. Because …
At the end of February, right before everything shut down, a friend was working on an international shidduch for me and I was all, “I think I should fly to meet him, it’s ridiculous to meet someone over Zoom.” Hahahaha. Apparently it’s not so ridiculous, after all. This new frontier in shidduch dating definitely deserves a real discussion. …
Hi, all. The following is a conversation that never took place (but probably should have, and still might). I suspect this will resonate with you. “Mrs. Cohen” is a composite figure and the social worker is yours truly. Enjoy. Hi, Mrs. Cohen, do you have a few minutes to talk? I’m calling with a suggestion for you. Oh! …
If someone gave me a written exam on parenting, I think I’d get an A. Over the years I have really tried to learn a lot about what kids need and how they develop, and to that end I have read a number of books, etc. But — when it comes to applying this learning in a real-life situation with …
It goes without saying that life will never be the same. We are living through a moment in history unlike anything we’ve experienced in our lifetimes. And earth-shaking changes like this make most everything else seem trivial by comparison. There will be time to write and talk about other things soon enough (and I intend to, on this blog), but …
How quickly the world turns upside down! Do you even remember life before COVID-19? When I was blogging about stuff like shidduch pictures (lol)? It was another reality…but we will get back there, please G-d! And as Rabbi Manis Friedman said in a video clip I saw, we will have a healthier planet and a nobler human race when we do. …
Hey, last week I wanted to write something but I couldn’t figure out what my thoughts on the coronavirus outbreak were exactly. Now that my job and fieldwork have been suspended, I’m realizing that this is all very real. It’s time to settle into a new normal. When something large and unexpected shakes up our lives, it’s an invitation …
Last year I had written about how it can be hard to figure out who I am and to define myself in terms of spirituality and different standards. My guess is that this is a hard topic for many people. I have some thoughts… (Just want to say, it’s hard to use specific examples as there are nuances in …
My friend sent me an excerpt from “Risk Factor” by Rabbi Yosef Bensoussan, which appeared in the February 5th edition of Mishpacha. I thought it was amazing, just reading it gave me the chills: Quiet. Then sniffling. Then tears. A lot of tears. “It’s so much pressure!” she yelled. “Everyone keeps asking why I’m not married yet. It’s like …
Most (if not all) of us have met or worked with professional shadchanim over the years. I personally have done quite a bit of that, and I’ve had…a variety of experiences. (Don’t get me wrong; some of them have been wonderful). I’ve had this post in the works for a while but I’m finally putting it up here. These …
