Some of the most basic yet most helpful advice I got in shidduchim was to not count dates. I was in middle of a parsha and pressuring myself to come to a decision. A friend came over on Shabbos and told me to tell myself I had until Succos to make a decision (this was in June). At the time I …
In the interests of maintaining consistency, I’d like to report on what I read (or didn’t) in May and June. Remember January? Anyway, I had wanted to read 50 books this year but then COVID-19 hit and I kind of relaxed my extracurricular goals. One of the things that gave me an inkling that things would not be the …
I got the term “the America feeling” from Gretchen Rubin. It perfectly captures the patriotism + transcendence I feel when I have certain experiences. Like visiting Washington, D.C., which I’ve done many times, especially walking around the congressional office buildings. (How cool is it to stroll past office suites marked “North Dakota,” “Louisiana,” and “Texas” and watch mysterious and official-looking …
One of the most fervent hopes and prayers of many people in shidduchim is to have clarity. I often daven for clarity and have been wished clarity and have been told that the most important thing to have is clarity 😉 . Lately I’ve been considering what clarity could mean, aside from what I think is the most basic …
Hey, all. I thought it would be interesting to talk about who “takes charge” of your shidduchim. Do shadchanim contact you directly? Do you reach out to shadchanim on your own or does someone do it on your behalf? Who does shidduch research? How have things changed over the years? And are you happy with your current setup or are …
Initially, I was going to write this up like a Top 5 but…I will leave that to the pros. Up there with answering “what are you looking for?” is the subtle aggravation of trying to extract shidduch information from a hopeful suggester. (Disclaimer: THANK YOU to everyone who tries to make shidduchim, especially mine 😉 . You are appreciated.) …
I haven’t done a journaling post in a long while and I’m sorry to admit that I haven’t journaled in a long while either. But I have soo much just swirling through my head between everything that’s been going on out there and also in my personal life, so I’m posting this as a reminder to myself to dive back …
A couple of weeks ago I wrote about how reopening is making me anxious because it was so nice to have a break from shidduchim. There are some other aspects of this lockdown that I’ll really miss. -Charming backyard weddings. I really wanted one. -Having an easy way to feel like I was doing everything right. I will miss …
Someone sent me a clip of Rav Elimelech Biderman shlit”a speaking about this week’s parsha, Parshas Shlach. I found it so powerful and just what I needed to hear. After the meraglim (spies) came back from spying Cana’an, they described the sights they had seen and told how impossible it would be to conquer the land. Calev answered, “Aloh …
How I dread that question. It’s not like I haven’t had to answer it a million times already, but I still cringe and stumble when I have to produce an answer. Anyone out there have a really good elevator pitch that’s specific and true-to-you and easy to give over with minimal room for misinterpretation? No? (Sometimes I feel like saying, …
