One of my married friends/moral supporters recently shared something she learned from Dina Friedman, the popular teacher. People say that shidduchim is about compromise. While every shidduch entails acceptance of the full package, which will always include at least some “imperfection,” Dina Friedman teaches a method for feeling that you are not compromising at all. Basically, for every imperfection …
Things are slowly getting back to normal where I live. Retail is starting to open, outdoor minyanim are fully operational, families are hosting their relatives for Shabbos. Social distancing and lockdowns are reversing themselves, and it looks like Zoom dating may no longer be entirely necessary in the near future. This would seem to be good news. I am …
Recently a friend asked if I knew what a mutual acquaintance is looking for in a shidduch, as she had a guy in mind. I answered that I didn’t know but that it was nice of her to try and work on an idea. She shared that she didn’t want to ask the girl herself so that she wouldn’t “get …
Hey, all. I was going to post something before Shavuos but I didn’t get to it and now…what a year this week has been (not my own line). I haven’t ever posted about politics and won’t start now but I will acknowledge current events because how can I not? Just want to say that I think murdering and also …
This week Mishpacha printed a LifeLines story and aaargh I read it and ask myself why? Probably should have quit while I was ahead but I didn’t so here’s a new post. In all fairness, every person is fully entitled to share their story, and the story itself is fairly innocuous. It’s basically one young man’s account of his …
I recently read a comment on an article on a frum website to the effect of “women in abusive relationships should work on themselves because often, abuse is a response to the wife’s behavior.” Oh my goodness. No, no, and no. What on earth? Abuse is never the victim’s fault. Never. Abuse is the abuser’s problem. It is a …
A few weeks ago, a line jumped out at me in an article I was reading in one of the frum women’s magazines. It went something like, “It feels like yesterday that I was a teen but at 30, I’m practically a mother of teens myself.” Say what? I once wrote a post about throwing away the timelines, …
Just a friendly reminder that you never need to apologize for:
Since my Partner in Torah and I are now learning about the manna, I dusted off a paper I wrote in seminary (many moons ago) to refresh my memory of different lessons we can learn from this topic. (By the way, I couldn’t figure out whether to write it like mohn or manna. I was more inclined to the first but it evokes …
A long while back, a reader and I exchanged emails about a few topics that hadn’t been covered here. She requested a post on this topic and now…here it is, y’all. (Better late than never?) Basically, the question is: How do I keep dating from taking over my life? I find that when I’m in the midst of a …
