I recently read a comment on an article on a frum website to the effect of “women in abusive relationships should work on themselves because often, abuse is a response to the wife’s behavior.” Oh my goodness. No, no, and no. What on earth? Abuse is never the victim’s fault. Never. Abuse is the abuser’s problem. It is a …
Just a friendly reminder that you never need to apologize for:
Since my Partner in Torah and I are now learning about the manna, I dusted off a paper I wrote in seminary (many moons ago) to refresh my memory of different lessons we can learn from this topic. (By the way, I couldn’t figure out whether to write it like mohn or manna. I was more inclined to the first but it evokes …
A long while back, a reader and I exchanged emails about a few topics that hadn’t been covered here. She requested a post on this topic and now…here it is, y’all. (Better late than never?) Basically, the question is: How do I keep dating from taking over my life? I find that when I’m in the midst of a …
It’s really easy to look back at a past dating experience and tell yourself that you could have, should have made it work. That you over-analyzed. That you should have gotten over the way you felt. That if he had X, Y and Z going for him, you should have been okay with the limitations your relationship would’ve had. Because …
At the end of February, right before everything shut down, a friend was working on an international shidduch for me and I was all, “I think I should fly to meet him, it’s ridiculous to meet someone over Zoom.” Hahahaha. Apparently it’s not so ridiculous, after all. This new frontier in shidduch dating definitely deserves a real discussion. …
Hi, all. The following is a conversation that never took place (but probably should have, and still might). I suspect this will resonate with you. “Mrs. Cohen” is a composite figure and the social worker is yours truly. Enjoy. Hi, Mrs. Cohen, do you have a few minutes to talk? I’m calling with a suggestion for you. Oh! …
My Partner in Torah and I just finished learning about kriyas Yam Suf (excellent timing, yes) and as I have found over and over since we started learning Chumash, the pesukim gave me great chizuk. I gained a lot from learning these pesukim and really visualizing and feeling the experience. Specific details will touch different people; I am struck by …
It goes without saying that life will never be the same. We are living through a moment in history unlike anything we’ve experienced in our lifetimes. And earth-shaking changes like this make most everything else seem trivial by comparison. There will be time to write and talk about other things soon enough (and I intend to, on this blog), but …
At this point, just about everyone’s lives have been turned upside down. With schools shut down, businesses shuttered, and flights cancelled, not to mention the social distancing measures, I’m getting so jittery. Weddings have had to be dramatically scaled down…and that got me thinking about what I would do if my wedding was taking place under these circumstances. It’s actually kind …
