You’re still you and you’re still an autonomous adult even if you’re single…
Things You Don’t Have To Do Just Because You’re Single
- Travel.
- Volunteer.
- Save your money.
- Spend your money.
- Shop a lot for new clothes.
- Live with your parents.
- Meet shadchanim.
- Go to that local shiur for post-seminary girls.
What would you add?
P.S. What is it that you WANT to do?
9. Further your education.
This list is a good one. Because every item on it CAN be done if you WANT to do it, and at the same time, you do not HAVE to do any of it. Thanks for sharing this list category.
Ooh, yes, that’s a great one! Exactly!
Amazing list.
10. Look a certain way (yeshivish, etc)
11. Not look a certain way
12. Be thin
13. Wear makeup whenever you are out
In general, it’s so important for us to feel good in our own skin. Do whatever it takes. But oh no, not for ‘him’ or ‘his mother’ who might meet you at your quick run to the grocery after the gym when you are (G-d forbid, lo aleinu) still in gym clothes!! Externals are so unimportant. Present well to the extent that YOU feel like it, to make yourself confident and happy – but dressing for others is overrated.
Yes, yes, appearances and all those “rules” that aren’t rules!!