A few years ago I learned of the concept of the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) by Dr. Elaine Aron. The concept resonated with me so I took the quiz and discovered that I am just about on the border of testing as an HSP. According to Dr. Aron’s research, HSPs comprise about 20% of the population. HSPs have heightened …
Hi, all. A friend sent me a link to a recent feature in Family First where single women shared tips and perspectives on how they navigate(d) being in shidduchim. I really enjoyed it! A few quotes: On self-confidence “It feels good to get dressed up, but some days are sweater and slinky skirt days, and if I’m seen in …
Continuing the thread from last week about bashert/ “missing your bashert.” Sometimes in shidduchim it feels like everything comes with this extreme sense of urgency: If you say no to them now, they’ll be gone forever! If you don’t get back to them quickly, they’re going to move on! If you take a break, you’ll miss your opportunity! This isn’t …
You may be wondering what apartment living looks like when it comes to shidduchim. The truth is it hasn’t been much different from dating from my parents’ house (but the little difference it’s made has been positive)! I generally date from my apartment. I let the shadchan know to let the guy know that I will be waiting outside and …
A few nights ago I was thinking about the concept of bashert and of “missing your bashert.” I was left with more questions than answers. What does it mean to have a bashert or to miss your bashert? Does it mean you can turn down the one person you would have been happiest with? The person who would have …
When you move into an apartment, of course, the most important thing is who you are living with. What’s it like to live with roommates? Before you sign on with a roommate, you should exchange references and look into each other. Really! Awkward as that sounds, it’s important and you should both do it. Also, you aren’t obligated to …
The other day I wanted a change of scenery so I went to Manhattan. I walked from midtown uptown for awhile, then sat by the pool at Lincoln Center. In the quiet, I wrote down some thoughts on a piece of scrap paper. I wrote that I am feeling grateful as I reflect upon the blessings I received this year …
Hey, all. We are up to the most fun phase (in my opinion) of the finding your half-orange process! It’s time to let go of the pressure to get married and just live a happy life! After all, if one of the main reasons we want to get married is to be happy, why not skip straight to the happiness …
Hi, everyone. I hope you are doing well. Onto some more dating optimism! Step #1 was about focusing on your belief that you can have what you dream of. Step #2 was about going all in on wanting it even if it’s scary or uncomfortable. Step #3 is about identifying what it is that you really want. For …
Hi, everyone. Last week we started working through the six steps in the book Meeting Your Half-Orange, by Amy Spencer. To recap, the first step is to connect to the belief inside of you that you truly can have the relationship you dream of, focus on improving the quality of your thoughts around dating and marriage, and frame your thoughts …
